Bargain For Your Life

Not so much anymore, but from time to time I get a request to work with a client who is dealing with addiction. And I while I am a firm believer that everyone should be afforded treatment regardless of their financial means, if they have the resources, they should have skin in the game.

For years I worked with a very high-end company dealing with people coming from a place of privilege. Extremely well off, they would try and negotiate the fee for service. After multiple attempts, their insurance would no longer pay for addiction services, or they would pay for a 10 day inpatient facility. Just enough time to medically stabilize them, but zero time to really begin the recovery process. For that reason, we would be contacted for a high level hands on service. From professional athletes, CEO’s to celebrities, many just didn’t want to come out of pocket. What I found interesting is that those who were willing, often enjoyed greater results. That having skin in the game placed a value on their effort.

This really became apparent when I would work with young adults and the family was covering the bill. In many of these cases, there was little respect for the process. Yet, when I would go into the prison system and work as a chaplain, I would routinely meet men and women being discharged who were willing to do anything to get help. I would get them plugged into a meeting or home group and they would make the coffee, set up chairs, work the hotline or give someone a ride to and from. That was the only currency they had. They gladly paid and I would gladly help them. Those who did not bargain for their life and had skin in the game, almost always did better in their recovery.

I once was working with a business owner with multiple relapses. They were very well off {7 figures a year well off.} They could have very easily afforded any treatment facility in the world. They opted for minimal services, and a decade later are still in active addiction. The conversation every time we would re-engage was about money. In reality it’s not about money at all. But respect for the process and commitment.

I have had clients who have had a drinking problem with a 20.00 dollar a day bar tab. When the question of money came up, they quickly realized that by not drinking, they suddenly had 600.00 a month to apply towards treatment. The person who didn’t hesitate often excelled. Likewise, the same for the person who made every meeting without being court ordered.

Money should not be an excuse when to comes to treatment. Why bargain with your life? Those who have skin in the game {monetarily or not}, almost always achieve better results. You have to give something to get something. I have heard many of my clients say “If it didn’t hurt, I didn’t respect it.” When it comes to treatment. I hope it hurts. Hurts your pockets or hurts your pride. It just needs to hurt. We have to fight through the worst days to get to our best. And it is next to impossible to do that if you don’t have skin in the game, and you do not respect the process.

Live Your Life With Love Instead Of Killing Yourself With Drugs

“Hey buddy. I am bored. Let’s smoke up some stuff ” – a very common thing to hear these days among youth of our country. Some say that it’s their ‘Swag’, some say that they feel like heaven after doing drugs, and others say that it just makes them feel relaxed. There are lot of reasons people give, so that they can justify their drug abuse. Whatever the reason may be, the root cause remains the same- Lack of Love. Now this love can be Self-Love, or lack of attention from parents and other caregivers. But people choose to do drugs, they are not compelled to use them.

People say that they feel “Light” after doing drugs, but the core reality is that it is a deep pit of darkness. It just drags you to its web and you get stuck there because you do not have a strong will power! All those who do drugs are emotionally weak people. And unlike what they think,they are not any higher in status, coolness or class or intelligence. Rather they are just like a rat trying to escape from the difficult situations of life. Sorry to put it that way, but we feel sorry for all those who choose drugs to find some refuge. That is not at all a good life; it is simply being dead with a living physical body. Most of the experiences you get while you are on the ‘so called’ Trip of Life, you actually cannot feel them after the effect of your drug is over. It would be the real enjoyable trip only if you can experience the same elation of emotions without any psychoactive substance.

Ancient scriptures say that getting imbibed upon any kind of drug is a sin. Because you lose your human sense and your animal urges become more powerful, which lead you into unhealthy ways of life- like gluttony, and getting dependent only upon bodily pleasures for fun. It makes you forget that you are a human and you need to walk by certain morals and principles of life. Most of the criminal records say that rapes, murders, robbery, theft are all done under the influence of narcotic substances. There have been many cases where people died while they were trying to get high, without the awareness of the amount they had already consumed due to their body tolerance for drugs and hence ended up overdosing!

There is definitely a need to see how beautiful life is! People need to get over with all their fears. They need to be bold enough to accept themselves the way they are and if they feel that there is a need to change, then they must take a step with courage to make it happen without drugs!

A rehabilitation center is considered to be a stigma these days. Yes, addiction is a filthy disease, but it is very important to get over it. Get yourself admitted in a good and a recognized rehabilitation center. What after all would be better? To see yourself or your loved ones destroy their life with drugs or to gain control over life with full confidence and live a sober healthy life!

Drugs are very dangerous for health- Both Mental and Physical Health. You lose the sense of discretion, you can’t make decisions anymore, you lose on your creativity slowly and over that, you miss out the most beautiful moments of life-with yourself, your family and your friends. If your loved ones are smoking weed and hash or loving the ‘Trip’ of LSD and saying that they are enjoying a great night life, they are already lying in their dark grave. They are far away from the beauty of life, because they have no realization of who they are, and what life actually is about. They have no purpose in life. They have no control of their life. It is drugs that control them.

If you do not want to be a person who would burn the whole world around just to light a cigarette and then dry up his own tears in the smoke that destroyed everything, if you want to find a real and a beautiful life, STOP DOING DRUGS!